“A Hollywood actress once had an hourglass figure, but the sands of time have shifted.”

The other night I had my first experience with weight watchers.

No, not that kind of weight watchers! Not the program and company, Weight Watchers. But another type of weight WATCHERS! 👀

More specifically, people who feel the need to point out the obvious about another person’s weight.

I don’t think I have ever posted a “venting” blog before, but there’s a first time for everything. And if I have, MY BAD, I forgot about it.

Anyway, the other night I got told that I’m too big for my height. 😏 Whooptee Effing (explicit language) Doo!

That particular night was also my baby sister’s 21st birthday, so I prepared a very special dinner for her.

Some friends of our parents were visiting, and so of course we invited them to stay and dine with us, in our little celebration.

After the delightful dinner that I laboriously and lovingly catered to my sister and family, we all sat around having small talk.

I find it rather rude for a guest to just blatantly tell me that I’m too fat for my height.

The sad thing is that this isn’t really the first time this person has said something like this. A few years ago, this “said” person, once told me I was too young, NOT TO HAVE A SEXIER FIGURE.

Gee thanks! Because my life’s desire is to impress you with my looks. Are you seriously that vain?

Whatever!

Thank God, I don’t rely on my looks to carry me. People would be very disappointed with my everyday look.

I mainly get dressed up for special events, or with my sister’s when we have amauter makeovers, and for photographs, and that’s about it.

Every now and then I feel girly and want to get dolled up. But it’s not like a priority for me to glam myself up.

Disappointingly, I’ve had a few other random people make comments about my weight or body image, over the years. Including family members.

The part that disturbs me is that it’s mostly men. (Not all men obviously)

What makes people so bold to think it’s appropriate to make such asinine remarks? I’ll never know. And as men, why do you worry so much about what a woman looks like on the outside, when clearly you don’t have it all together in the mind? I’m just saying!

Shouldn’t you just worry about your own body? As a matter of fact, it’s kind of creepy when an old man such as yourself thinks my body image is an appropriate topic up for discussing.

I don’t need to explain myself to you mister! My body is MY temple. And I am the only one responsible for it.

I’m not competing against any man or woman. Nor do I worry about what the next person is doing. I’m forging my own path. And what I do, or don’t do with my body, is nobody’s damn business! Simple as that!

But out of respect for my family, I remained nonchalant about the incident, and figured I’d much rather write about it, than to be confrontational with our guests.

Here are some things I have really actually been told, TO MY FACE, in my last 20 years of life concerning my looks, weight, and body image;

• “During your pregnancy, you looked like fat bastard!”(A character in the movie AustinPowers.)A random U.S. Navy serviceman
• “Are you pregnant?” Random and complete strangers
• “Fat Heifer!” Family
• “Fat bitch!” Angry disgruntled ex employee/subordinate
• “Boney Ass!” Ex boyfriend, USN
• “Fat Ass!” Ex
• “Ugly Ass!” Ex
• “Mija you look like a Coca-Cola bottle.” My grandma told me this in my younger days. Now days though I’m more of a 2 liter Coca-Cola bottle. 😜
• “You’re getting fat!”, “You’re gaining weight!” Many family members

I’m sure there’s more. But you get the idea.

What are some of the rudest remarks people have made about your body image? And how do you handle the insulting ones? What would you do if someone body shamed you?

Let me know at:

candidchicana@gmail.com

“Most mothers aren’t really interested in taking their weight off-they just want to rearrange it.”

Quotes Taken From:

McKenzie, E.C. 14,000 Quips & Quotes for Writers & Speakers 1980.