Woo:

1. Try to gain the love of (Someone, typically a woman,) especially with a view to marriage.

…romantically pursue

…pursue

…chase

2. Seek the favor, support, or custom of

…try to win

…try to attract

…try to cultivate

Correct me if I’m wrong about this, but it seems that this younger generation of men don’t want to woo women. I saw a meme that said:

“Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find.”

-Facebook Meme

That is so true. If a guy has a dozen women ready to jump into bed with him, he will not feel the need to chase that one woman he likes who is requiring more effort.

I mean why should he spend months chasing a good woman, when he can pick out of the dozens available that are willing to meet his needs initially?

Why would he want to put in any work at all, when there’s so many girls that will give him what he wants right now?

And how did my young ladies allow this to get to this point?

Baby girls, mamis, you are worth more than a one night stand. (Unless of course that’s a phase your in, no judgement at all). But I always remind my ladies that the Bible says, You are above a rubies worth.” And precious stones don’t seek, they are sought after.

Let’s teach our daughter’s that they deserve to be woo’d. That the right man will want to put in the work to gain her love and affection.

And this goes both ways. The girl will have to show some interest in him. And she can woo him too, but never lose sight of the fact that we women are the ones that should be chased, we don’t do the chasing.

Gentlemen, I’m no dating expert but I am a woman. Women still want to be woo’d. Here’s some ways you can woo that special woman you’ve been mesmerized by.

• Find out her interests.
• Write her love letters or poetry.
• Send her flowers.
• Flirt with her.
• Compliment her.
• Lead but don’t be pushy.
• Be trustworthy with your private conversations (don’t tell all your homeboys everything.)
• Privacy, because not all of your social media friends will be happy for you. Unfortunately.
• Chocolate, roses, little trinkets go a long way.
• Take things slow, because it’s better to know if you’re compatible before going to bed together (old school courting means no sex before marriage) and (It’s ok to have platonic friendships with great woman), you don’t have to sleep with every woman you meet.
• Behavior- If you take a girl on a date to a restaurant and your rude to the waitress or anyone else, she will notice. So if you like her a lot, be on your best behavior. I mean that’s just in general, because nobody wants to date a douche.
• Wear cologne, we love that shit! Then hug her.
• Hold her hands when walking together especially in public places.
• Listen to her. Talk to her.
• Play with her.
• Comfort her during trials.
• Don’t whine or act childish to get your way.
• Respect her.
• Open doors and pull out her seat.
• Make your time spent together enjoyable.

Yes, again, women we can woo our men too. Just remember that we are the ones to be sought after. We do not do the seeking.

And be the girl or woman that knows her worth! Because like Alicia Keys sings,

“Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her. And a real man knows a real woman always comes first.”

– Song Artist, Alicia Keys

Photo Credit:

Unsplash, Hanny Naibaho

Works Cited:

GoogleDictionary.com woo

Weber, Jill P. Psychology Today. Finding Love, The Old Fashioned Way