New Years Resolutions

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CANDID CHICANA’S NEW YEAR RESUTIONS

  • Get back enrolled into college to finish my Bachelor of Science Degree (one semester) and then pursue graduate school. Utilize my VA benefits/Hazlewood
  • Find an exciting new job where I can best share my talents and simultaneously work my way to building my own dreams/ambitions/goals.
  • Travel somewhere! Anywhere! It’s time to explore this beautiful world.
  • Bring up my credit score because I want to buy my kids a house. I’m ready to use that VA home loan benefit. My credit score went up in 2017, so I want to bring it up even more this year.

That’s It!!!!!!! Well there might be more but that’s all that I’m sharing. 😂😂😂


Photo Credit:

Unsplash Andrew Dong

Believe In YOURSELF

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I love learning. And today I’m in a great mood after a long time. Because I love it when people underestimate me. This is Candid Chicana’s BELIEVE IN YOURSELF RANT!

Do you ever have people that say hurtful things to you just to trigger a reaction from you? When they try to insenuate that you’re inferior or somehow inadequate to them.

When the whole world tries to tell you that you aren’t good enough, don’t be discouraged. They do not know you or;

  • Your dreams
  • Your projects
  • Your strengths
  • Your beliefs
  • Your perseverance
  • Your past achievements
  • Your new ambitions
  • Your daily hussle and grind
  • Your strong will
  • Your foundation
  • Your work ethic
  • Your IDEAS

I wouldn’t trade my ideas for all the money in the world. Write them all down in a journal. Because even if you can’t use it right now, it’s always there for later. I’ve read that about writing ideas. But I think we can apply that to all of our ideas.

Business Startups, Book Topics, Recipes, Music, Applications, Websites, Just About Any Creation We Can Think Of.

And let them laugh at you, they don’t have to see your value. You just have TO KNOW YOUR OWN VALUE. You have to keep your eyes on your own lane. Thats how you reach your destination. Too many people think life is about competing. They lose focus because they start playing the compare and compete game.

They compete with the craziest things too. You see people competing about their spouses, their marriages, their children, their weight, their education, their wealth, their “cribs” homes, their “rides” cars, their “titles”, such as rank in their positions and many more things .

I’m prettier/skinnier than her. I have/make more money than him. I have a better career. I own 4 automobiles. I’m more attractive. I have nicer clothes. My house is bigger than his/hers. My kids go to private school. My husband is better than yours/hers,Etc….etc…. Literally everything starts to become a competition.

Arrogantly, some people act as if they have never struggled or been down on their luck. That’s unfortunate, because everyone has the power to help others. But instead of being humble and genuine, they forget that at one point they had some bumps in the road, that at one time they were at rock bottom.

You just have to keep going. If you’re doing your best and trying to do something to help others, but people don’t believe in you or your ideas, then you have to just believe in yourself. I always try things even when Im afraid. And 90% of the time, I do those new things afraid. Some people will even hate that about you too.

Quick little side story:

When I was going through training to become a correctional officer, I had this one guy in my group (mind you we were assigned to our groups), look at me and tell me in front of many of our group members, my peers, “You’re a follower.”

I just stared him down with that “resting bitch face” as they call it.

You know like that one meme with our favorite bad girl Scarlet from Gone With The Wind and told him,

“Well, in order to be a great leader, you must learn to follow a great leader first.”

The former Marine in our group just gave me a high five in agreement with me, and I was happy that everyone could see that this guy was just being a jerk. He new instantly he picked on the wrong girl.

Here’s a pic of me in that gray uniform. Don’t laugh, I know I’m so chunky and cheeky! I’ll have to tell y’all the story about why I got that job one day. It’s a great testimony to the favor God has given me in my life. I was a single mom and God opened doors for me (like HE always does, and always will.)

But anyway let me get back to this story .

Photo Credit: Google Images

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Personal Photos of, Deanna Guadalupe Montalvo

Yeah! Ugh! I hate when people try to step on you when you’re already the underdog. But I guess they see the fight in you. I don’t know. I don’t get it. I guess I’m thankful for people like that. They’re the ones that push you into your greatness.

I’m a life-long learner. I will be, until the day that I die. I don’t apologize for who I am.

Abraham Lincoln’s father didn’t want him to read books, but instead he wanted him to be more masculine and chop wood. But he was who he was. He was studious and loved to devour books. And he went on to become a president of the United States.

Let people be who they are DESTINED to be!

No one is inferior to you. Not even the homeless men and women sitting in downtown Lancaster street right now. (Fort Worth Texas street where the homeless gather)

A man or woman sitting in prison right now, might have more education and knowledge than you or I have, or even a higher I.Q. than a PhD recipient.

Money does not equal intelligence.

Money can not buy you true love.

Money doesn’t fix all your problems. Perhaps some. But not all.

Surround yourself with positive people, mentors, and teachers. Be that to others as well. We all have something to give. Something we can teach.

Now I suddenly feel inspired to read and see the Christmas Carol, because I LOVE that story. It helps me to reflect on the really important things in life. Life is so short. And we can’t take the money with is when we die.

Sure, more money equals fancier things. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t underestimate the value of a learner (a student, a scholar, a leader, an influencer, a coach, a teacher, or a motivational speaker) also.

WE ALL HAVE THE POWER TO POSITIVELY INFLUENCE OUR COMMUNITIES.

– DEANNA G. MONTALVO

Anyway, I’m going back to my solitary bubble. I have some creations to work on. Be nice to people, it’s the holidays.

Be blessed. Be safe. Merry Christmas.

Photo Credit:

Unsplash Tim Arterbury

Faithfulness Is Key

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Click on link to watch the quick video by Pastor Craig of LifeChurch.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1585138071544771&id=10454796293713

I had a frustrating morning yesterday. Somehow I managed to lock my keyboard app and after many hours of troubleshooting, and calling my provider, I had no choice but to reset my phone.

Resetting Sucks!!!

Because basically you loose all your contacts, photos, and work. If you haven’t backed up your stuff….poof! Prepare to watch the disappearing act!

I keep having these little technical difficulties and it just makes me irritable because I already have all these other little nuisances in my life.

For example, having to blog from my smartphone since my laptop died. And considering, I’m already a blind old bat, this is VERY IRKSOME!

Also, trying to blog and write past midnight when my two toddlers are asleep. Bring on the caffeinated beverages!

My “writing hours” are supposed to be from midnight until 3 a.m. Since that’s mostly the only uninterrupted time I can usually find.

These are my little monsters in the picture below. Don’t let their cuteness factor fool you. They’re gremlins I tell you! Boy do they wreak some havoc on the daily!

And when my baby does NOT want to go to sleep, he insists on sitting on my lap. Even though he sees me trying to write with my one free hand. But let me tell you…..he does NOT care.

So….yes, I get extremely stressed out. Being a full time mommy, while trying not to lose my own identity is difficult.

I feel like that woman in the boxing movie I reviewed last week. I just want to give up sometimes because it’s too hard. I’m exhausted. And my kids know me as mom, NOT AS DEANNA OR CANDID CHICANA.

I asked my three year old son “What’s mommies name?” and he said, “mommy.” 😂😂😂 I asked the same question several times, but unfortunately I’m just mommy. 😮

But someway somehow I have to make it work. I get up and try again each day. In between boiling the beans and peeling potatoes and seasoning the meat, I also have to pay attention to my babies, AND not forget who I am as well.

But like Pastor Craig says in the video, it’s ok to sometimes be going through a season that seems unbalanced and maybe chaotic. This too shall pass! In fact it will pass very rapidly, and the day will come when I wish they could be little again.

I am thankful for my daughter’s, my “little queens,” I call them. They are my damage control team. They are growing up to be very independent and I don’t always tell them how much I appreciate them, but I try to as often as I can.

Without their help, I wouldn’t even be able to poop 💩 by myself. My monsters are magnetically attached at my hips and 80% of the time they will scream bloody murder if I don’t let them come into the restroom with me. By the way….why do you think it’s called RESTroom? I clearly don’t get any rest in there.🤷‍♀️

So thank you, to you my beautiful little queens. Mami ❤’s You! Without you, I wouldn’t accomplish anything. And I am so thankful God made you mine.💋

I’m currently working on updating two of my blogs and I have a new story brewing. Also, I fell behind on my inkchallenge. I’ll try to catch up tonight.

I’ve also downloaded the kindle reader app once again to start reading more. I got 10 free books for signing up . So I’ll post a pic of what I’ll be reading for awhile. It may take me awhile to read them. I remember I used to be able to read an entire book in one day. Those days are long gone now.

Oh yeah, don’t forget to work on your writing prompt for the week to be entered in Candid Chicana’s very first writing contest. This week’s prompt is:

Your favorite moment in film

And you can submit your entry to:

candidchicana@gmail.com

Midnight on 10/31/2017 is the deadline for submitting an entry.