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This Ride Called Life – My Spiritual Awakening
Deanna Montalvo Blog
La Loba Lingerie By Candid Chicana
Hello beautiful people of the world! I am so excited to announce my latest and greatest news – that of my new-‘st’ business venture. I, Candid Chicana (Deanna Guadalupe Montalvo) am starting a GORDIBUENA (PLUS) SIZE LINGERIE ONLINE BOUTIQUE!
I have created a separate blog for my business venture. If anyone is interested in following my NEW business blog, it will feature, Plus Size Lingerie, I have included that link! https://lalobalingerie.wordpress.com
You can also follow La Loba Lingerie By Candid Chicana on the following social media platforms.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lalobalenceria
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/la_loba_lingerie/
Tik-Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@la_loba_lingerie?lang=en&is_copy_url=1&is_from_webapp=v1
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iHLgTKoGTX0
The nature of my content here at Candid Chicana Blog will also be shifting. I will continue to blog on this original wordpress platform as Candid Chicana. But I have slightly altered my three main topics from Chicano Culture, Spiritual Growth, Self-Development to, Chicano Culture, Creativity, and Commerce. I have evolved both personally and professionally and so I feel that is the direction I want to take my blog in.
I want to personally thank Texas Women’s University and the Center For Women Entrepreneur’s. TWU awarded $250,000 in grant funds to Texas Women Veteran Entrepreneur’s. And I was blessed to be selected as one of the 27 recipients, for a $10,000 business grant to help fund my startup – lingerie boutique.
I am so thankful that ya’ll (TWU CWE) believed in me, in my dream, and my business plan. I appreciate how ya’ll also provided a business advisor. Justina Shaw – THANK YOU gorgeous lady! You helped me crunch the numbers and get the financial part of my business plan just right. I couldn’t have done it without you. And to all of the mentors at TWU CWE. I am eternally grateful for all of the support, mentorship, and webinars.
Justina Shaw – TWU CWE
Both of my young adult daughters have joined me in this new business venture.
Destiny Ane Statam will serve as the Chief Financial Officer of La Loba Lingerie. Destiny will be getting her certifications in Bookkeeping, and Accounting at the Goodwill Leadership Academy. The accounting cert also comes with a transferable college credit.
Faith Raquel Statam will serve as the Brand Spokeswoman for La Loba Lingerie. Faith has experience in dance and modeling. She will facilitate the events, recruit plus size models for fashion shows, and be the public figure for the La Loba Lingerie brand.
I, Deanna Guadalupe Montalvo, am working on obtaining my certification in Entrepreneurship/Small Business through the Goodwill Leadership Academy. I will be taking the ESB exam after completing 150 hours of study. The entrepreneurship cert comes with a transferable college credit.
We will be hosting our first LINGERIE LIVE SALE via Facebook Live on Aug 28 at 7p.m. If this is something that interests you, please join us! Click the link below to access the event. And please share this post. Thank you.
Event Linkhttps://fb.me/e/3PSJQzhwv
Las Amigas
When I was a little girl I would always ask my mom, “Mami, who is your best friend?”
Mami always responded with, “no tengo mejor amiga.” (I don’t have a best friend.)
Then I would ask her why. She would say to me, “Mija, no hay amigas.” (Daughter, there are no friends.)
Over the years I watched as many of my mom’s friends had betrayed her in various ways. But one particular time that comes to mind, is when one of those friends she had, stole all of her gold jewelry.
My mami was obssessed with her oro(gold.) Most of it was from Mexico. She owned gorgeous rings, earrings, chokers, necklaces, and medallions of all sorts. She had accumulated quite a fancy and valuable assortment of dowry over a large span of years. Mind you, we were dirt poor growing up, so it took my mom many years to accumulate her little dowry stache.
Many of her pieces of gold jewelry were even purchased by my papis relatives, so they had sentemintal value. My papi had ocho hermanos y una hermana. (8 brothers and one sister).
They did have one other brother that had died as a child I believe. He was never really talked about much. It was something that I feel may have traumatized my father in his life. Possibly it was a freak accident type of death.
This may be the reason why my papi was a helicopter parent all of his life, and perhaps also the reason I too, am now a helicopter mom.) I really dont know, that is just the vibe I got.
Anyway, back to my original story, my Tia Rosa (aunt Rose) had picked many of those gold earrings for my mother. And my papis mami, my abuelita (fathers mother, my grandmother) also had gifted my mother some gold and silver jewelry for both her, the daughter-in-law, and us, the granddaughters.
It hurt my mami so much, when that so called “friend” stole all her gold jewelry. My mother confronted this woman (in what I like to say chola style), I’ll never forget it. She told her in a matter of words, that she knew she had stolen her jewelry. She asked her to return the jewelry, and that she would forgive her and never hold it against her. Just as long as she returned it. It was very sad to see my mom heartbroken and feeling betrayed.
Despite that betrayal of friendship, this story has a good ending.
A few days passed after the jewelry had been stolen. The woman must have felt some ounce of remorse for what she had done. Maybe hearing my mother confront her about it, was enough to cause her to feel convicted about it.
One day we came home, and beside our front door step, was a small brown bag. My mom opened the bag, and inside was all of her valuable jewelry. She was elated once again. She even called the woman and thanked her over and over again for returning it. I was in shock that my mother didn’t hold a grudge or hate this woman.
Why am I telling you this story?
I’m telling you, because my mom kept her word. She never held this incident against this woman. My mom could have chosen not to associate with her ever again. After all this woman was a lying, thief. I feel my mother would have been justified in terminating that friendship.
But it’s amazing to me, that my mom is still friends with this woman. She stayed friends with her all of these decades. This woman was also one of the many friends by mami’s side, when my papi passed away. I would even say, that she is still a close friend to my mother.
I’m happy to finally understand my mamis words, “no hay amigas”(There are no friends.) In a way she was telling me, that “friends”are going to let us down sometimes. But the people that are meant to be in your life, will make amends and make things right, if they are meant to be in your life. And those that don’t, don’t deserve you anyway!
Featuring Artist & Business Owner Tania Ceja
I would like to give a big thank you to artist Tania Ceja of Dallas, Texas (owner) of Dimples & Diamonds Facepainting & Event Services, for this lovely illustration artwork of my altar ego, ” C A N D I D C H I C A N A”.
I really loved it. Especially how she used a purple hue in the shadowing of this piece, one of my favorite colors. And the feather quill pen adds a sweet, and thoughtful personalized touch for a novice writer such as myself.
I love how artists can illustrate a certain quirk or style about their subject in their portraits. They have that genius way of telling a story through (illustrations) lines, designs, colors, and more.🤗
Check her out. Click this link below:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10160041514105257&id=523860256
Tania does facepainting and event services. Look at these cute faces she’s transformed with her magical makeup skills!
Tania is a creative artist, and clearly she’s gifted at what she does. Please share this blog with all your friends and family, so that she could reach new potential clients.
I’m a big supporter of women & mom entrepreneurs who are trying to make a living and support their families. I also support all creative artists in their journeys to express themselves through their art. I love showcasing their talents, because they are all unique in their own way. It just reminds me how wonderful it is, that each of us has our own special calling.
I’m also a believer in supporting small business owners before big company’s. Let’s show Tania some love, by sharing this blog featuring her work. She is such a giving person, an her self determination and drive are evident.
To book your parties or make inquiries, contact TANIA CEJA at: 214-962-8067
AREA: Fort Worth and surrounding areas only.
New Years Resolutions
CANDID CHICANA’S NEW YEAR RESUTIONS
- Get back enrolled into college to finish my Bachelor of Science Degree (one semester) and then pursue graduate school. Utilize my VA benefits/Hazlewood
- Find an exciting new job where I can best share my talents and simultaneously work my way to building my own dreams/ambitions/goals.
- Travel somewhere! Anywhere! It’s time to explore this beautiful world.
- Bring up my credit score because I want to buy my kids a house. I’m ready to use that VA home loan benefit. My credit score went up in 2017, so I want to bring it up even more this year.
That’s It!!!!!!! Well there might be more but that’s all that I’m sharing. 😂😂😂
Photo Credit:
Unsplash Andrew Dong
5 Tips For Sprucing Up Your Resume
One thing that’s crucial to remember when looking for a new job or career opportunities, is that you have to be prepared.
One way to be on top of your game, is to have a top-notch resume that is CURRENT and UPDATED. You do not want old information handed out to your new potential employers.
For example, having an old email address, or the wrong phone number listed on your resume, is just unprofessional. It could literally cost you your dream job.
Take the necessary time to spruce up your old resume. It can make all the difference in whether the employer reads your resume, or stacks yours in the pigeonhole pile. Basically it will not even be considered, and ultimately it ends up getting tossed out.
Here’s 5 Tips That I Practice: I’m going to share with you how I do it and how to help you spruce up your own old resumes at any time, and in a simpler and more effective manner.
- Master List Create and keep a master list containing all of your former employers/organizations information. For example, their physical address, phone number, the supervisors name, and any other helpful information. This may seem tedious at the time, but it will be worth it. The next time you are looking for a job, or for a better job, you will already have all your information readily accessible and available on this master list. Constantly input new information about new job positions and date of employment. I personally jot down a few of my job responsibilities. This helps me tremendously. Because if you find yourself in a season where you were out of work for a while, you may not remember off the top of your head, how to describe what you did later on 6 months to two years down the road.
- Copy Always save a copy of each new updated resume in a file folder. You can label it whatever you like. I like to label mine either, Templates, or, Copy Resumes. This too is beneficial when you need to find work quickly. People seem to find resume writing a little daunting. Unless you like writing, like I do, you probably want this to be as painless as possible. So if you follow these few tips, you will certainly save yourself some stress in the future. All you have to do is update your new information. Always try to add the current info to your file.
- Conciseness Use as few words as possible, but choose the best possible descriptive words of your work experience. Employers and Hiring Managers need to quickly scan your resume and understand your work experience. You want to be concise and not too wordy.
- Keywords The Hiring Managers want to see that you know and speak the lingo of their industry. Choose the accurate terms for your industry.
- Revise Constantly revise and edit your resume with new updated, and current information. Always proofread and spell check and have someone read your resume to catch for any misspellings or other grammatical errors.
Following these 5 simple steps is a quick way to spruce up your resume with as minimal stress as possible. I hope you find my tips useful and email me at any time if you have used these tips to lock down your dream job.
E-mails: candidchicana@gmail.com
dstatam63@bethelu.edu
Photo Credit: Wallpaper App
Source: The 6 Universal Rules For Resume Writing https://www.indeed.com
Believe In YOURSELF
I love learning. And today I’m in a great mood after a long time. Because I love it when people underestimate me. This is Candid Chicana’s BELIEVE IN YOURSELF RANT!
Do you ever have people that say hurtful things to you just to trigger a reaction from you? When they try to insenuate that you’re inferior or somehow inadequate to them.
When the whole world tries to tell you that you aren’t good enough, don’t be discouraged. They do not know you or;
- Your dreams
- Your projects
- Your strengths
- Your beliefs
- Your perseverance
- Your past achievements
- Your new ambitions
- Your daily hussle and grind
- Your strong will
- Your foundation
- Your work ethic
- Your IDEAS
I wouldn’t trade my ideas for all the money in the world. Write them all down in a journal. Because even if you can’t use it right now, it’s always there for later. I’ve read that about writing ideas. But I think we can apply that to all of our ideas.
Business Startups, Book Topics, Recipes, Music, Applications, Websites, Just About Any Creation We Can Think Of.
And let them laugh at you, they don’t have to see your value. You just have TO KNOW YOUR OWN VALUE. You have to keep your eyes on your own lane. Thats how you reach your destination. Too many people think life is about competing. They lose focus because they start playing the compare and compete game.
They compete with the craziest things too. You see people competing about their spouses, their marriages, their children, their weight, their education, their wealth, their “cribs” homes, their “rides” cars, their “titles”, such as rank in their positions and many more things .
I’m prettier/skinnier than her. I have/make more money than him. I have a better career. I own 4 automobiles. I’m more attractive. I have nicer clothes. My house is bigger than his/hers. My kids go to private school. My husband is better than yours/hers,Etc….etc…. Literally everything starts to become a competition.
Arrogantly, some people act as if they have never struggled or been down on their luck. That’s unfortunate, because everyone has the power to help others. But instead of being humble and genuine, they forget that at one point they had some bumps in the road, that at one time they were at rock bottom.
You just have to keep going. If you’re doing your best and trying to do something to help others, but people don’t believe in you or your ideas, then you have to just believe in yourself. I always try things even when Im afraid. And 90% of the time, I do those new things afraid. Some people will even hate that about you too.
Quick little side story:
When I was going through training to become a correctional officer, I had this one guy in my group (mind you we were assigned to our groups), look at me and tell me in front of many of our group members, my peers, “You’re a follower.”
I just stared him down with that “resting bitch face” as they call it.
You know like that one meme with our favorite bad girl Scarlet from Gone With The Wind and told him,
“Well, in order to be a great leader, you must learn to follow a great leader first.”
The former Marine in our group just gave me a high five in agreement with me, and I was happy that everyone could see that this guy was just being a jerk. He new instantly he picked on the wrong girl.
Here’s a pic of me in that gray uniform. Don’t laugh, I know I’m so chunky and cheeky! I’ll have to tell y’all the story about why I got that job one day. It’s a great testimony to the favor God has given me in my life. I was a single mom and God opened doors for me (like HE always does, and always will.)
But anyway let me get back to this story .
Photo Credit: Google Images
Photo Credit:
Personal Photos of, Deanna Guadalupe Montalvo
Yeah! Ugh! I hate when people try to step on you when you’re already the underdog. But I guess they see the fight in you. I don’t know. I don’t get it. I guess I’m thankful for people like that. They’re the ones that push you into your greatness.
I’m a life-long learner. I will be, until the day that I die. I don’t apologize for who I am.
Abraham Lincoln’s father didn’t want him to read books, but instead he wanted him to be more masculine and chop wood. But he was who he was. He was studious and loved to devour books. And he went on to become a president of the United States.
Let people be who they are DESTINED to be!
No one is inferior to you. Not even the homeless men and women sitting in downtown Lancaster street right now. (Fort Worth Texas street where the homeless gather)
A man or woman sitting in prison right now, might have more education and knowledge than you or I have, or even a higher I.Q. than a PhD recipient.
Money does not equal intelligence.
Money can not buy you true love.
Money doesn’t fix all your problems. Perhaps some. But not all.
Surround yourself with positive people, mentors, and teachers. Be that to others as well. We all have something to give. Something we can teach.
Now I suddenly feel inspired to read and see the Christmas Carol, because I LOVE that story. It helps me to reflect on the really important things in life. Life is so short. And we can’t take the money with is when we die.
Sure, more money equals fancier things. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t underestimate the value of a learner (a student, a scholar, a leader, an influencer, a coach, a teacher, or a motivational speaker) also.
WE ALL HAVE THE POWER TO POSITIVELY INFLUENCE OUR COMMUNITIES.
– DEANNA G. MONTALVO
Anyway, I’m going back to my solitary bubble. I have some creations to work on. Be nice to people, it’s the holidays.
Be blessed. Be safe. Merry Christmas.
Photo Credit:
Unsplash Tim Arterbury
Whatever Happened To Wooing A Woman?
Woo:
1. Try to gain the love of (Someone, typically a woman,) especially with a view to marriage.
…romantically pursue
…pursue
…chase
2. Seek the favor, support, or custom of
…try to win
…try to attract
…try to cultivate
Correct me if I’m wrong about this, but it seems that this younger generation of men don’t want to woo women. I saw a meme that said:
“Since sex got easier to get, love got harder to find.”
-Facebook Meme
That is so true. If a guy has a dozen women ready to jump into bed with him, he will not feel the need to chase that one woman he likes who is requiring more effort.
I mean why should he spend months chasing a good woman, when he can pick out of the dozens available that are willing to meet his needs initially?
Why would he want to put in any work at all, when there’s so many girls that will give him what he wants right now?
And how did my young ladies allow this to get to this point?
Baby girls, mamis, you are worth more than a one night stand. (Unless of course that’s a phase your in, no judgement at all). But I always remind my ladies that the Bible says, You are above a rubies worth.” And precious stones don’t seek, they are sought after.
Let’s teach our daughter’s that they deserve to be woo’d. That the right man will want to put in the work to gain her love and affection.
And this goes both ways. The girl will have to show some interest in him. And she can woo him too, but never lose sight of the fact that we women are the ones that should be chased, we don’t do the chasing.
Gentlemen, I’m no dating expert but I am a woman. Women still want to be woo’d. Here’s some ways you can woo that special woman you’ve been mesmerized by.
- Find out her interests.
- Write her love letters or poetry.
- Send her flowers.
- Flirt with her.
- Compliment her.
- Lead but don’t be pushy.
- Be trustworthy with your private conversations (don’t tell all your homeboys everything.)
- Privacy, because not all of your social media friends will be happy for you. Unfortunately.
- Chocolate, roses, little trinkets go a long way.
- Take things slow, because it’s better to know if you’re compatible before going to bed together (old school courting means no sex before marriage) and (It’s ok to have platonic friendships with great woman), you don’t have to sleep with every woman you meet.
- Behavior- If you take a girl on a date to a restaurant and your rude to the waitress or anyone else, she will notice. So if you like her a lot, be on your best behavior. I mean that’s just in general, because nobody wants to date a douche.
- Wear cologne, we love that shit! Then hug her.
- Hold her hands when walking together especially in public places.
- Listen to her. Talk to her.
- Play with her.
- Comfort her during trials.
- Don’t whine or act childish to get your way.
- Respect her.
- Open doors and pull out her seat.
- Make your time spent together enjoyable.
Yes, again, women we can woo our men too. Just remember that we are the ones to be sought after. We do not do the seeking.
And be the girl or woman that knows her worth! Because like Alicia Keys sings,
“Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her. And a real man knows a real woman always comes first.”
– Song Artist, Alicia Keys
Photo Credit:
Unsplash, Hanny Naibaho
Works Cited:
GoogleDictionary.com woo
Weber, Jill P. Psychology Today. Finding Love, The Old Fashioned Way
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