Why is that some moms develop this sitnkin thinkin when it comes to our sexiness, and wearing our elegant attire?

It’s as if one day we switch the button to off. Or as if there is this unwritten rule that is subliminally input into our minds that says,

“You can’t dress this way anymore because you’re a mom!”

At one point you decide, well I can’t wear short shorts anymore….because I’m a mom now.

Or, I can’t wear miniskirts anymore….because I’m a mom now.

I can’t wear crop tops….because I’m a mom now.

I can’t wear stilettos or high heels….because I’m a mom now.

I can’t wear glitter in my hair or on my body….because I’m a mom now.

I can’t have purple hair…. because I’m a mom now.

Etc.etc….

At first we stop dressing up because it’s just practical to use lounge wear and we want to use our time wisely. With rearing children, it’s understandable why we choose to do that.

Plus it does’nt make logical sense to “waste” our nice clothes and makeup on a, staying at home day. I mean we even rationalize that we’re saving the family some money by not dirtying up clothes.

Right?

Isn’t that what we tell ourselves?(Or is it just me?)

But the truth is, if you’re a stay at home mom, then you eventually stop dressing up at all.

That’s not a problem,

UNTIL

IT’S

A

PROBLEM!

There’s no mandatory rule that says we have to stop dressing up for ourselves. Surely not all moms have this chronic syndrome, but I do.

It’s like your so busy living, and putting your children first, your education first, your spouse first, your employer first, your business first, your EVERYTHING but YOURSELF first!

One day you just look at yourself and think, how the he!! did I get to this point?

A while back I read a post written by an admin in a homeschool moms group. She went on to share how she was implementing this new years resolution she made for herself to dress up everyday.

She said that she was much more able to convey her personality again with her wardrobe choices, and that she noticed how it made her feel better.

Now you might be thinking, well duh, Deanna! But you see let me explain: I, along with so many other people in this world have depression and anxiety problems that at times immobolize us and prevent us from simple basic tasks.

Sometimes you see the indirect snarky comments in your social media, like, she posts a lot of selfies,or she just wants attention, or she just wants likes, etc.etc.

Little do these folks know that most days its a struggle to get out of bed and to brush your damn hair. And that if I put makeup on, curled my hair and dressed up, it was difficult to get there. But…..they don’t know that. They think whatever the he!! they want to think.

So…..I guess my point is that I’ve realized;

1. I NEED TO FIND DEANNA’S PERSONALITY AGAIN.
2. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS TALK 💩, SO JUST DO WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU!
3. I THINK IT’S OK TO BE A SEXY MOM(IF YOU ARE ONE), OR TO WANT TO BE A SEXY MOM(IF YOU FORGOT-LIKE ME)

Now…..if you have suggestions on how I can do this, remember to shoot them my way via email @: candidchicana@gmail.com

XOXO 💋,

Candid Chicana

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